Sunday, September 26, 2010

Sounds

You start with a broken heart. It is a complete shock at first because it turns your whole world around. You try looking for answers - to understand why and how you got to this place, but often times there is no conclusion or response...only silence. And yes...you go on living, but everyone is so happy it seems, and you...well you try to be that happy person and not ruin everyone's good mood, but it is pretty impossible. You will break out in tears or miss a conversation or someone asking you a question because you are wishing for that one person to be sitting next to you or experience that moment with you. You are just sad and hurt because you wonder why love was not returned in the same way and what made it so hard for someone to love you back. You are left in pieces. You don't want to be here alone and broken - when they walked away, they took part of you with them. Now, it feels like the only option is to face what lies ahead, and you try to convince yourself nothing is wrong and good will come, but you are still in pieces, alone, crying, and sleepless.

When A Heart Breaks (listen here)
by Dave Barnes (at Blueberry Hill, November 4)

No one ever told me
It would come to this
What began with such a promise
Would end with such a twist

I lean into the whisper
But I don't hear a thing

It's a tear in the dark
All alone in the car
In pieces, in pieces
It's the sound of mistake
As I lie here awake
Sleepless, sleepless

This is the sound that is made
When a heart breaks

Everybody's laughing
Maybe that's just me
Does something unrequited
Mean it will never be

I lean into the whisper
But I don't hear a thing

It's a tear in the dark
All alone in the car
In pieces, in pieces
It's the sound of mistake
As I lie here awake
Sleepless, sleepless

This is the sound that made
When a heart breaks

Please don't leave me here

Life, for now, I've come to fear
You've dropped me off and left me here
With nothing here to find my way
But the lights you take as you pull away

Far ahead the brush is moving
There's others here and good is proving
Nothing's wrong, it's in my mind
Nothing's wrong and I'll be fine

It's a tear in the dark
All alone in the car
In pieces, in pieces
It's the sound of mistake
As I lie here awake
Sleepless, sleepless

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Walking

So, I would say I've always questioned my singing abilities even though I sang in the choir in high school and was even on the worship team as a vocalist with Campus Crusade for Christ in college. I'm a big harmonizer, but still not confident to let it be known. This may have been caused by my brother who once recorded me while I had headphones on and was belting out Dixie Chicks "Cowboy Take Me Away." (God help us all!) Well, I had no idea I was being recorded and he said I was bad. So I think I've believed him ever since.

But, I love to sing. I wish I could do it for a job but that is just unrealistic - so yes, I'm that singer in the shower (when I know no one will hear me), and I'm definitely the singer in my car! If you were driving next to me, you would probably laugh at me. But I don't care...I just sing because music helps me when I don't know how to describe my life, but a song does it perfectly.

A beautiful friend gave me a "coping" CD to listen to and there is this song that just is so lovely to sing along to. I love it. It is my current song that I pump up the volume while I sing along (and yes...I will sing it even if I'm being recorded - no matter how bad it may sound):

IF YOU WANT ME TO (listen here)
by Ginny Owens

The pathway is broken
And The signs are unclear
And I don't know the reason why You brought me here
But just because You love me the way that You do
I'm gonna walk through the valley
If You want me to

Chorus:
Cause I'm not who I was
When I took my first step
And I'm clinging to the promise You're not through with me yet
so if all of these trials bring me closer to you
Then I will walk through the fire
If You want me to

It may not be the way I would have chosen
When you lead me through a world that's not my home
But You never said it would be easy
You only said I'd never go alone

ya oh oh no

So When the whole world turns against me
And I'm all by myself
And I can't hear You answer my cries for help
I'll remember the suffering Your love put You through
And I will go through the valley If You want me to

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Truthful Heartbreak

Revelations from Heartbreak:

1. You are stronger than you think you are
2. But it is so easy to get caught up in lies like: you weren't good enough, you did something wrong to get to this place, you can't take another day, you deserve to be lonely the rest of your life, you aren't pretty or desirable, you'll never be able to move on, or stand strong, or trust again...fill in the blank
3. And it is also easy to do anything to try to make yourself feel better, but not everything is the right way or best way to make yourself feel better
4. That song that says "A heart don't break even" is true - at least it seems that way. The person doing the breaking seems to have an upper hand
5. Sometimes, Facebook and other social networks only makes things worse. That first picture of him/her with another girl/guy will break you. It is never easy to let go, but don't torture yourself - maybe for now you should de-friend for your own sanity
6. But know that even a simple (but not so simple) click of the mouse will bring loads of tears and more pain
7. Because you may love and care for that person so very much - even after all of it - and it is okay to still have those feelings - you would be superman or woman if they magically disappeared. Maybe, for some, those feelings may be legitimate and come to fruition again, but you have to live thinking that they will never be there in the future
8. Walk with God e.v.e.r.y.d.a.y. - As Pastor Darrin said, "When you can't see His hand, trust His heart" - I don't see why God brought me to this place (or why it was ever there to start with) but I strive to trust His heart. There is a purpose. You have a purpose. And He won't keep you in your pit forever if you trust that He is drawing you closer to Him if you OBEY!
9. But be okay with asking questions and telling God how you really feel. Honesty: I'm mad at God. I'm don't get why He took me through all of that and still has me in mire and why I still feel like I'm getting punched in the stomach over and over again. Wrestle with God because He will not fail you...don't fake it
10. Don't fake it means being real with your feelings - if you hurt, hurt. If you feel like crying, cry. If you want to hit something, hit a pillow. If you need to talk, talk to mentors or people who are spiritually strong. If you are sad, be sad. And we all need to learn, so learn. And if you need to grow up, grow up. And if you need to question, question...
11. But know that when you question, there may not be answers and you may have to learn to be okay with that
12. But also know there will be many days where you won't be okay with a lot of things
13. And other days tears are easier to find than any sort of good...you'll learn that crying is a norm in your daily life. I'm surprised I haven't been in a car accident yet. My car is my crying haven.
14. Pray with all of your heart and if you need to physically get down on your knees, then get down...if you find you end up laying on the floor, then lay on the floor. You've got to pray.
15. Don't try to fill empty voids with meaningless things - it will never work - the temporary relief could only hurt you more and potentially hurt others

I'm still in this mess and could probably add a bunch more, but I would be curious:

What have you learned through your moments of heartache? Or what would you add? What would you revise or make a Part II to?

Monday, September 20, 2010

Be

Another blow.

Learning that just "being" is worship and the best I can offer right now.

I'm pretty destroyed and questioning what God's love is. This doesn't seem like love at all.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Redefined and Refined

So I know it has been a while since I've actually rambled. I haven't been ignoring you, but I just didn't want to ramble on and on and on about my life and bore you to death. I get sick of hearing myself sometimes and would rather just have you listen to songs I love or remind myself that life can still be fun. I'm sure I sound melodramatic at times, and I won't lie - those are honest feelings and sometimes right in the raw moment, but I also am trying to live a life that still exudes joy even though there is not always happiness (I'm learning the big difference between those two words joy and happiness because there is a BIG difference).

I'm sure you know I'm not in a place in my life that I would consider any sort of happiness or what I had imagined for myself. At this age, I pictured my life to be filled with financial independence, a job that was at least something I dreamed of when I was younger - or for that matter, what I studied for four years in college, a different living situation (a.k.a. not my parent's house - though very gracious I am for them!), at least a prospect companion to share the good and bad of life with, and a faith that was strong and could handle anything. Whelp, life has taken quite a turn in all of these areas, and when you find yourself in this place of just...average...you begin to wonder if something is wrong with you or if it is just one of those "blah" moments that prepares you for something more. I've felt both emotions, and both are probably the right answers.

So in this moment of my "average" life, where I feel that all dreams or desires I've had for myself don't seem to have any movement or clear open door at the moment, my main goal has been to be a hard-core Jesus freak in the most non-freaky way. My only remedy for not going into mental disarray and being that completely annoying, negative Nancy person is to be with Jesus a lot. I listen to the cheese-ball Christian radio station and have for about 2 months now because anything else would just not put me in a good mental state (I am a fan of some Christian music, but lets be honest - some stuff is just cheese). I have joined a Bible Study where we actually are doing a more intense study of a book of the Bible (imagine that!) and I have homework every weekday! I am joining a Community Group at my church to talk about the sermon that was preached on Sunday, and I seek out friends/mentors to talk about life with and feel encouraged by when I'm down or just need to get out. I don't say this to show off how great of a Christian I am because I'm not that great of a Christian. I'm doing these things because I'm a wreck and messed up and honestly need all the Jesus I can get my hands on. He has to be my All because I'm learning that you can lose everything or be turned upside down in a minute. It is so easy to hold tightly onto what the world can give me, and some days it feels like I'm just trying to get by hour by hour, releasing my tight fist over and over again.

Sometimes I don't get life and God's overall plan. It can be so very painful at times (and often because of my own sin, sometimes not). I still tear up and shed a few when I think about my situation and the people/dreams I've lost or have had to let go of for now. My heart breaks a lot and there are still many pieces on the floor. I've been challenged to search deep and think hard about my life and I have no clear answers on most everything. I can't tell you why I am here at this moment in my life except that God wants me to learn and lean on Him only. Sometimes I don't know what He is trying to teach me, and my future is one big fat question mark. I'm learning my tomorrows are His alone. Sometimes I fight to take control of my life and future, but I'm learning I lose those battles and can fall hard when I don't trust that God has a greater purpose and plan that is good and lavished with love. My purpose is to fight to keep Christ close in my heart this hour and the next. Trust me, I fail, but God is redefining my knowledge of who he is, and I'm sure he is refining my heart to be more like His.

I'm fighting and sometimes it feels like I'm not getting anywhere, but I have to believe he is taking me beyond this "average" place for something that fulfills a much greater purpose.

Friday, September 17, 2010

Waiting for a Revelation

Right now, I feel like I am standing in the middle of a field. There are so many different directions my life could take - and so many different landscapes on the outskirts of this field. I almost don't know where to go from here, and anything could be a possibility. To some, this may be freeing, but to me...this is frightening. My world is open, but I don't feel a calling. I don't know where I'm to move or where I am to go. I have wishes, desires, dreams, but I'm not sure if any are to become a reality.

So, I sing this song:

Revelation (listen here)
by Third Day



My life,
Has led me down the road that’s so uncertain
And now I am left alone and I am broken,
Trying to find my way,
Trying to find the faith that’s gone
This time,
I know that you are holding all the answers
I’m tired of losing hope and taking chances,
On roads that never seem,
To be the ones that bring me home

Give me a revelation,
Show me what to do
Cause I’ve been trying to find my way,
I haven’t got a clue
Tell me should I stay here,
Or do I need to move
Give me a revelation
I’ve got nothing without You
I’ve got nothing without You

My life,
Has led me down this path that’s ever winding
Through every twist and turn I’m always finding,
That I am lost again (I am lost again)
Tell me when this road will ever end

Give me a revelation,
Show me what to do
Cause I’ve been trying to find my way,
I haven’t got a clue
Tell me should I stay here,
Or do I need to move
Give me a revelation
I’ve got nothing without You
I’ve got nothing without…

I don’t know where I can turn
Tell me when will I learn
Won’t You show me where I need to go
Oh oh
Let me follow Your lead,
I know that it’s the only way that I can get back home

Give me a revelation,
Show me what to do
Cause I’ve been trying to find my way,
I haven’t got a clue
Tell me should I stay here,
Or do I need to move
Give me a revelation
I’ve got nothing without You
I’ve got nothing without You

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Sweet Dreams

As I plopped on my friend's couch after our fiery fish taco/Spanish rice dinner (a dinner I will cook over and over again because I'm proud I can make it!), I opened the pages of her Real Simple magazine. At first it was just something to browse while we chatted about life. Usually when I read magazines I like to start from the back and move my way forward. It really doesn't make much sense why I do it that way, but there is just something about magazine reading that makes me do it - probably because I look more at the pictures than read the articles, but this time my world was turned around. I glimpsed and then did a retake. Yes, my dream article:

Napping, a love story

If you know me, you know that I love to take naps. It is one of my hobbies. I've been made fun of for how much I nap. One of my most favorite gifts was a blanket someone gave me because they knew how much I loved to nap. Not only have I fallen in love with this blanket, but my family has as well, and it is now known as "Bear Blanket" because of its warmth and cuddibility. Thus, to have an article with the title "Napping, a love story" you bet I'm going to read it.

These words get me - get my obsession with naps:
A nap is not a nap without light. This is what distinguishes it from a good night's sleep. A nap is a stolen moment, not the natural culmination of the day. A nap is secret, illicit. It is sleeping during the day, and the day must be present and visible. There must be light ideally dappled in a garden or slanted through a window: soft and filtered and gentle. An afternoon sleep in a darkened room is not a nap, in my opinion. It is a migraine...not everything has to be useful, not everything has to lead to something more that sometimes, for no reason and with no purpose, you can just curl up on the couch, feel the soft breeze, and drift into a soft, delicious sleep that leads to nowhere in particular, and back again.

Naps are delicious. When light is filtering through the window, my bed is made (yep, I take naps on a made bed), and my bear blanket is waiting to be unfolded and wrapped around my body, I'm there and sucked into the beauty of a nap.

I loved this article so much that I ripped it out of the magazine so I could file it (for who knows what purpose) and I plan on taking a nap on Sunday.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

The Hour

I've decided that to get a full picture of me here on this bloggity, I might as well give you glimpses of adventures I take, music I love, poems I read, poems I write, pictures I paint, and words that come from my heart (sometimes well thought out, sometimes just going with the flow).

So here is a glimpse of: Poems I Write

The Hour
by Elizabeth Simon

Tick, Tick, Tick, Tick…
It goes on and on and on.
With every staccato the hand makes
A longing, a desire beats, beats, beats.

Semi-circle, half-circle,
I-don’t-know-where circle,
but it-will-come-full-circle circle –
that ding, ring of the hour..

Tick, tock, tick, tock, tick tock
Lub, dub, lub, dub, lub, dub…
anticipating a final declaration
It beats on and on and on

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Take Me Out

For the past three weeks I have been mixing some running, P90x, and Frisbee into my workout routine - all of which have been fun and great! There is something about taking care of yourself and working out that just makes life a bit easier. I'll admit I'm not always motivated to do this, but I've been doing a pretty good job lately. Well, I didn't think anything could make me sore like P90x does, but I was proven wrong with this:



Softball Tournament



Yep, that's right. I played in an all-night softball tournament this weekend with my friend Amanda. Her team needed another girl so I offered to be the weak-link of the team and strike out more than they really wished. Well I did get an RBI and make it to home plate more than once so hopefully they didn't think I was that bad, but there is one problem: I can't move! When I think of softball, I don't think of getting that great of a workout, but I guess if you want a good one, stay up all night swinging a bat, rounding bases, and running back and forth from the field to the dugout. Your abs, arms, back, shoulders, forearms, and thighs will be sore for days.




Oh, and we went undefeated, making us the Champions! It was such a great night to just get out and enjoy life a bit. I haven't pulled an all-nighter since who-knows-when, but I made it...now I just hope I can make it through the next few days...moving around has been a little difficult with all my muscles screaming at me.