Truthful Heartbreak

Revelations from Heartbreak:

1. You are stronger than you think you are
2. But it is so easy to get caught up in lies like: you weren't good enough, you did something wrong to get to this place, you can't take another day, you deserve to be lonely the rest of your life, you aren't pretty or desirable, you'll never be able to move on, or stand strong, or trust again...fill in the blank
3. And it is also easy to do anything to try to make yourself feel better, but not everything is the right way or best way to make yourself feel better
4. That song that says "A heart don't break even" is true - at least it seems that way. The person doing the breaking seems to have an upper hand
5. Sometimes, Facebook and other social networks only makes things worse. That first picture of him/her with another girl/guy will break you. It is never easy to let go, but don't torture yourself - maybe for now you should de-friend for your own sanity
6. But know that even a simple (but not so simple) click of the mouse will bring loads of tears and more pain
7. Because you may love and care for that person so very much - even after all of it - and it is okay to still have those feelings - you would be superman or woman if they magically disappeared. Maybe, for some, those feelings may be legitimate and come to fruition again, but you have to live thinking that they will never be there in the future
8. Walk with God e.v.e.r.y.d.a.y. - As Pastor Darrin said, "When you can't see His hand, trust His heart" - I don't see why God brought me to this place (or why it was ever there to start with) but I strive to trust His heart. There is a purpose. You have a purpose. And He won't keep you in your pit forever if you trust that He is drawing you closer to Him if you OBEY!
9. But be okay with asking questions and telling God how you really feel. Honesty: I'm mad at God. I'm don't get why He took me through all of that and still has me in mire and why I still feel like I'm getting punched in the stomach over and over again. Wrestle with God because He will not fail you...don't fake it
10. Don't fake it means being real with your feelings - if you hurt, hurt. If you feel like crying, cry. If you want to hit something, hit a pillow. If you need to talk, talk to mentors or people who are spiritually strong. If you are sad, be sad. And we all need to learn, so learn. And if you need to grow up, grow up. And if you need to question, question...
11. But know that when you question, there may not be answers and you may have to learn to be okay with that
12. But also know there will be many days where you won't be okay with a lot of things
13. And other days tears are easier to find than any sort of good...you'll learn that crying is a norm in your daily life. I'm surprised I haven't been in a car accident yet. My car is my crying haven.
14. Pray with all of your heart and if you need to physically get down on your knees, then get down...if you find you end up laying on the floor, then lay on the floor. You've got to pray.
15. Don't try to fill empty voids with meaningless things - it will never work - the temporary relief could only hurt you more and potentially hurt others

I'm still in this mess and could probably add a bunch more, but I would be curious:

What have you learned through your moments of heartache? Or what would you add? What would you revise or make a Part II to?